# Buddhas Bedroom ## Metadata * Author: [Cheryl Fraser PhD, Jack Kornfield, and Trudy Goodman](https://www.amazon.com/Cheryl-Fraser-PhD/e/B07GNW5T2D/ref=dp_byline_cont_ebooks_1) * ASIN: B07B92BVVP * ISBN: 1684031184 * Reference: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07B92BVVP * [Kindle link](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B07B92BVVP) ## Highlights Fact number two points out that the cause of our sickness, our unhappiness, is hanging on. We cling to wanting things to be a certain way. In other words, we fight reality. Reality is not the problem. So, whether your car is covered with flowers or poop, reality is just, well, reality. Whether you feel happy or angry has nothing to do with what is sitting on your car hood; it has everything to do with your reaction to reality. The suffering is created by your mind’s reaction, not by the events themselves. Bad luck doesn’t make you unhappy; you do. — location: [642](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B07B92BVVP&location=642) ^ref-22722 Applicabe to imvesting too. Desire to be smart in investing is a powerful emotion. --- In this moment, if you are unhappy, it is because you are hanging on to something. You want things to be different than they actually are. But clinging to wanting things to be different is futile. Things are as they are. Fact of life number three says let go of your clinging, and happiness will arise. — location: [693](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B07B92BVVP&location=693) ^ref-50791 --- Let go of hanging on, accept reality instead of fighting reality, and train your mind to be calm and loving no matter what is happening around you. — location: [754](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B07B92BVVP&location=754) ^ref-25472 --- Reality doesn’t hurt; your mind hurts. Let go of wanting things to be different, and happiness will arise. — location: [772](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B07B92BVVP&location=772) ^ref-54941 ---